Who Stole Your Joy?

Monique Mills, MBA, PMP
2 min readAug 5, 2021

And that’s not a hypothetical question either.

Right now, I want you to think about it — Who stole your joy OR maybe…Who did you WILLING GIVE your joy to by comparing yourself to them?

I had a client meeting today where I stated “ Comparison is the thief of joy.”

Here’s an example:

You know how you’re going along thinking you’re doing well, made good progress toward your goals and then you check social media and see someone else doing “better”???

You know how you’ve just bought yourself a new car, and not necessarily brand new but just new to you, and you’re feeling good? Until you pull up beside someone in a nasty, brand new Mercedes AMG 😲👀😵

Then, you don’t feel that your “new” car is all that great. I mean it’s okay, right?


Stop doing that to yourself.

Comparison is the thief of joy.

Firstly, you never know the whole story for someone else. You don’t know anything about their journey or the “success” you see. Everything is not always as it appears.

Also, many times people make up stories in their head about who somebody is or what their story is just to make it all make sense for them.

Listen, everyone else’s business doesn’t have to make sense to you.

The story you’re telling yourself about someone is usually no where near close to the reality. And most importantly, another person’s success doesn’t take away from your success. There is enough to go around for everyone.

So, I wrote this post because it was on my heart to remind anyone who stops here to BE KIND TO YOURSELVES.

There are enough battles we all fight in life. Don’t give away your joy to narratives you’ve created in your mind.

Though it’s always easier said than done when it comes to comparing yourself to another person, my hope is that you’ll remember this post. You’ll save this post. You’ll share this post. And most importantly, my hope is that you’ll be proud of the progress you’ve made and keep pushing forward. Deal?

Another person’s success doesn’t take away from validity of your accomplishments and success. There is enough to go around for everyone.

Note: There might be typos in this post. Autocorrect on phones can be such a gem 😉

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Monique Mills, MBA, PMP

Serial Entrepreneur — Strategy — Engineer (EE) — Tech Startup Founder —President of SMB Acqusiitions at Focused Innovation Group — CEO of TPMFocus —#womaninSTEM